How to Plan a Funeral : Coffins, Songs, Flowers and More
Planning a funeral for a loved one is both an emotional and deeply personal process. It’s a moment to honour a life, reflect on treasured memories, and bring people together to say goodbye in a meaningful way. One of the most important aspects of this process is choosing the right elements that reflect the person who has passed. These decisions—such as selecting the coffin, music, flowers, readings, and other touches—help shape the tone and atmosphere of the funeral service.
At SC & BS Cocks Funeral Directors, we understand how difficult these decisions can be, especially during a time of grief. Our experienced and compassionate team is here to support you through each step, offering guidance and helping you make choices that feel right for you and your family. Below, we explore the key elements of a funeral and provide thoughtful suggestions to help you plan a personalised and respectful farewell.
Choosing the Right Coffin
The coffin is often one of the first decisions to be made. It plays a central role in the ceremony and can reflect the values, beliefs, or personality of your loved one. There are a range of options available:
- Traditional Wooden Coffins: These remain a popular choice due to their classic appearance and variety of finishes. Styles range from simple, elegant designs to more ornate options.
- Eco-Friendly Coffins: Increasingly chosen for their sustainability, these can be made from willow, bamboo, cardboard, or seagrass. They are a meaningful option for those who valued the environment.
- Personalised Coffins: For a truly individual touch, some families opt for coffins printed with bespoke designs—such as nature scenes, favourite hobbies, or photographs.
Our team can talk you through the available options, helping you choose something that reflects your loved one’s character and wishes.
Selecting the Music
Music can be one of the most moving and memorable parts of a funeral service. Whether traditional, spiritual, or contemporary, the right music can offer comfort and express emotions that words alone cannot.
Consider including:
- Hymns: For religious services, traditional hymns such as “Abide with Me” or “The Lord Is My Shepherd” are popular choices.
- Classical or Instrumental Music: This can create a calm, reflective atmosphere.
- Favourite Songs: These might include songs that were special to your loved one or that remind the family of meaningful times.
- Live Performances: Some families arrange for a live singer, organist, or instrumentalist to perform during the service, adding a poignant and personal touch.
Remember, there’s no “right” or “wrong”—what matters most is that the music is meaningful to you and reflective of the person being honoured.
Floral Tributes
Flowers have long been a traditional part of funerals, symbolising love, respect, and remembrance. The types of flowers and arrangements you choose can be a subtle but powerful tribute:
- Wreaths and Sprays: These are commonly placed on or around the coffin and can be made using the deceased’s favourite flowers or colours.
- Posies and Bouquets: These are often sent by mourners or placed near the coffin during the service.
- Personalised Floral Tributes: Shaped arrangements, such as hearts, initials, or symbols representing hobbies (like a football or a book), add a creative and personal element.
- Eco-Friendly Flowers: For green funerals, you might opt for seasonal, locally-grown blooms or arrangements free of floral foam.
Our funeral directors can recommend trusted local florists who understand the importance of creating respectful, bespoke tributes.
Readings and Eulogies
Words play a vital role in a funeral. Whether religious or secular, readings and eulogies offer an opportunity to pay tribute, share stories, and reflect on the life of the person who has passed.
Options might include:
- Biblical Passages: Such as Psalm 23 or Ecclesiastes 3.
- Poems and Literary Readings: Like “Do Not Stand at My Grave and Weep” by Mary Elizabeth Frye or “Remember” by Christina Rossetti.
- Personal Tributes: Written and delivered by family members or close friends, sharing memories and heartfelt sentiments.
We are here to help you decide on readings that suit the tone of the service and can even assist with writing or selecting appropriate texts.
Other Personal Touches
There are many additional elements that can make a funeral feel truly unique and reflective of your loved one’s life:
- Memory Tables or Displays: Featuring photographs, treasured items, or a timeline of their life.
- Keepsakes for Mourners: Such as bookmarks, candles, or seed packets to plant in memory.
- Dove or Balloon Releases: These symbolic gestures can be incorporated at the graveside or memorial gathering.
- Order of Service Booklets: Personalised with messages, images, and designs.
Support Every Step of the Way
Choosing the right elements for a funeral doesn’t need to feel overwhelming. At SC & BS Cocks Funeral Directors, we believe that every life deserves to be remembered in a way that is as individual as the person themselves. We are here to provide guidance, support, and a listening ear as you make these important choices.
If you need help arranging a funeral or would like to speak to one of our friendly team members, please don’t hesitate to contact us. We’re here for you, day and night, to ensure that your loved one’s farewell is everything you hope it will be—and more.